“You will never find the love your parents couldn’t or didn’t give you. They tried their best.
It’s gone, it’s lost.
It was gone and lost for them too.
And instead of trying to find it in someone or something else, or judging others and ourselves, we can find that love when we learn to turn inwards, and discover a safe connection with ourselves, allow ourselves to feel everything and learn to trust our emotions fully.
This is something we did not learn in a world that has mostly taught us to distract ourselves, to suppress, disconnect, run away and judge, what was often too painful to feel in the absence of a safe environment or an emphatic witness.
But anger, fear, hurt and sadness can show us the way home to all the places where we have been hurt, shamed, felt abandoned, lonely and in despair.
With somatic-based inquiry you will learn tools that help you uncover suppressed emotions and tension, and to find unconditional love for all that you are made up of and to find the love that your parents could never fully give you.
A love that we have continuously been trying to find in the outside – in relationships, in our work or spiritual aspirations, or in soothing ourselves with food and drink – in order to avoid feeling emotions fully or to make us feel better.
Yet when we stop and pause to inquire deeply, we can move through layers of physical tension, mental judgement and emotional resistance into our vulnerable places. While our body releases and processes long forgotten emotions, we simultaneously discover that unconditional “self-love” within us, that reaches our heart through all the pain and from beyond all the trauma of our life and this world.
It’s a gentle love and an authentic acceptance of ourselves that offers true peace, and a softening of our very being.
When we find a safe space to feel EVERYTHING and our mind becomes an emphatic witness, there is nothing we need to „get rid off“, there is nothing we need to „solve“ or „fix“, there is nothing we need to improve or run from.
Somatic processing also teaches our mind to listen inwards and recognise resistance to sensations, emotions, thoughts and to allow these contrasts which cannot be solved by logic.
It will redefine our relationship with our flaws and shortcomings and all that we judge as somehow dysfunctional or broken.
And as we release emotional tension we become less triggered and can finally relate to others with more calm and clarity and authentic boundaries that are not driven by anger but authenticity. As we learn to receive „body-feedback“and to recognise a somatic „Yes“ or „No“ it confirms that we are on the right path.
Addictions can fall away, chronic tension and pain can ease, our beliefs and deficiency stories stop colouring how we experience ourselves and the world around us.
As the suppression of emotions lifts, we get a chance to feel more alive with what is. Whether it is a joy or pain. In the end it was never about “being happy”, but about reconnecting and truly coming home to yourself.